Conflict is painful.

We are not built for conflict

Human beings are pretty good at getting themselves into conflict. And most of the time it’s pretty painful. When we are in relationship with others, what causes conflict is usually a difference in values. What is important to one person is not the same thing that is important to another. It’s all fine until that value difference requires a decision to be made. Then the arguments start.

Add into this the baggage we often carry. You know the put downs we endured as a young person growing up and the way we felt when we we undervalued by people who meant something to us. So now when things get heated and some choice words fly, it’s not just the issue that is creating the conflict but my reaction might just be a little bit over the top. (Just sayin’)

Now what if the other party has baggage also? Before you know it a discussion turns into a slanging match. How dare they talk to me like that, how dare she bring up that issue, how dare he walk away when I was just trying to make my point.

What mediation can do for you is create an environment that makes it safe to listen to one another. To really hear why the other person thinks the way they do and for them to hear you…. I mean really hear you. Once you understand each other a bit more then you can make you way to some form of agreement.

Let me help you find that pathway, I’m good at it. Call me or an appointment. You can request a FREE diagnostic consultation to determine if your situation can be resolved through mediation. Click Here.

Cheers,

Craig Anderson.